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Date: 10:53am, 06 Mar 2007
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Even when the children are no longer an issue and we are free to return to a career, women then face another hurdle.....ageism (supposedly now illegal). Whilst my children were small I took a low paid term time job just to be there for my children but despite studying part time to gain updated professional qualifications I still cannot find a job worthy of my qualifications and experience. It seems women are forever punished for taking time out to care for their own children.
Finding childcare is a complete nightmare! I've just spent the best part of my day trying to find someone who can collect my two children from school on a Friday afternoon and take care of them for a couple of hours plus school holidays. I have a potential job offer which hangs in the balance unless I can demonstrate that I have it all under control. At the same time I have discovered that holiday care will cost me £270+ per week which translates into over £1000 for the summer - assuming that I actually have any money left to take at least a 2 weeks family holiday. My working life since having children has been extremely challenging and I have felt constantly torn and guilty if I have to take time out to deal with an emergency relating to my children. With all the technology we have - surely there can be more flexibility? We have so much to offer any business -we're adept at multi-tasking and work at pace because that's what we do!
I have received a succession of "you have not been shortlisted" letters, despite having a first class degree, two professional qualifications and fifteen years' blue chip company experience. In all cases, when asked, the recruiters have told me that I have not made the short list "because five years is a rather extended maternity leave" ie because I did not work until the second of my children was in full time school. I do not quite know how you are expected to get back into the workplace to get recent experience if no-one is prepared to see you at interview.
I really sympathise with the above, being a solicitor who recently returned to work after a three year career break has sressed me out. I returned to a previous employer five days a week. I have three boys between the ages of 3 and 9 and although I was meant to be working twenty five hours a week i was regularly doing 30 32 hours but only being paid for twenty five hours. I was made to feel incompetent and was not respected by my employer who would make sarcastic comments about my part time hours. I ended up resigning after 4 months. I feel angry and distressed because although I want to work childcare costs especially during the holidays mean that I am working to pay someone to look after my children. I really would welcome comments from other mothers as to how they have coped with having a demanding career and children. I am looking for work now but am insisting any job must be on a part time basis with flexitime.
I can sympathise with Mandy - I have faced increasing problems at work due to absenteeism - i.e. parental leave. Even though this has been unpaid and not for more than 2 days at a time, I have had to care for my children when they are ill as I have no-one else to help except my husband who takes his share. I also had the barefaced cheek to take time off to visit my dying father and then his funeral but was rung up the day of my dads funeral by my Regional Manager to find out when I intended 'making an appearance' - he knew my circumstances! The worst part for me was that all my days parental leave and my bereavement time was taken off my holidays so I only had 5 days left to spend with my children last year. I have been made to feel as if I am unreliable, unenthusiastic and disloyal to my company - Anyway, I am about to quit my job because of it all and it will mean a huge financial burden on my family which is a no win-no win.
There is absolutely no doubt that women are discriminated against when they start their family. Even companies who put themsleves forward as enlightened employers are often doing nothing more than allowing their female talent to return to their old positions - with an agreement to work a few hours less for less pay. It is a very rare employer indeed who looks to develop and promote a talented part-time working mother!
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