Bloomin' noisy children

Bloomin' noisy children

During half term last week I took one and only son to the Imperial War Museum for a day out.  Naturally it was packed out - it was half term so I had expected the place to be heaving with people.  But what I couldn't get over was the amount of children who were allowed, and I carefully use the word 'allowed', to go completely unchecked by parents when the racket levels went way too high.
Obviously I expect the occasional parent not to give a monkey's when their child is annoying somebody, and there will sometimes be a case when a child has special needs, but I take these exceptions into account.
But in that museum there were quite a lot of  instances when an unconcerned parent let their child make an absolute annoyance out of themselves and failed to step in. 
One mum stood passively by while her little girl pressed a button which produced the noise of a ship's bell.  She hit the button 15 times at least - I know this because after the first five I had started counting.  There was a din each time the button was pressed - I know some of the exhibits are deliberately made to attract children to use them and learn about history (and I'm all for it) - but I couldn't understand how the mum couldn't realise that the repetition wasn't doing the girl much good, not to mention my poor old ears.  Why didn't she step in and coax her along to see something else?  Is it me who is overly sensitive?  I don't think I was overly sensitive, and, more interestingly, I noticed other children were put out by the behaviour and turning their heads in exasperation.  Of course, nobody said anything, because we daren't criticise anybody else's children for fear of a mouthful in return.
Another parent had two boys, who would be around 10 and 12, and his voice boomed out as he gave a running commentary.   Fair play to him for trying to get them interested, but they pushed past everyone, made flippant remarks about the information on the boards, and did all this very loudly.  They must have got absolutely nothing out of that visit. Could I suggest that if you know your children are inclined this way, then don't take them.   These types of behaviour were multiplied by other youngsters as we spent a few hours at the museum - they weren't isolated incidents.
I have a theory.  Some families have developed loud voices because they have to make themselves heard over the top of the telly blaring out or those games consoles.  I am  in no 'holier than thou' situation because one and only son does have a games console thingy, but I would definitely step in if his actions were annoying to other people.  If you don't teach them to be aware of other people, you aren't doing them any favours as they approach adulthood.   I'm sure we all know an adult who is totally unaware of everyone else's perception of them.  
This lack of correction or failure to ensure a child behaves well seems to be getting worse.  Or is it me? Are my advancing years making me too intolerant?

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Yes I think it is you! I would expect lots of noise anywhere where there are kids, they are having fun....maybe a trip to the library or a graveyard would be a better option for you?!

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No, it is NOT you! I work in a museum and dread half terms (main holidays like summer are somehow more diluted). I disagree with the commenter above - I don't think those noisy children ARE having fun, they are running riot. But, of course, the right of an individual to bellow and be a nuisance has to be treated with respect, whereas the right of others to a peaceful, intelligently productive afternoon is just being a spoilsport.

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I too agree, it is NOT you at all! The anon poster above obviously has a loud household and is probably one of those you speak about! I think sometimes life just gets on top of us especially with more than one child, things tend to slip, but that gives the parent NO excuse to let their child run riot when other children are more than likely trying to learn.

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I agree with the 2 posts above. Don't think it's you..After all what you said in your blog was quite reasonable...Yes, museums during half-term are bound to be loud and manic, but what you talked about just comes down to bad parenting as far as I'm concerned. I simply wouldn't allow my children to behave that way in public. I would be embarrassed if I had been the mother of the girl who kept ringing the bell incessantly. However, think it's a case of me learning to accept that I shouldn't expect others to treat me the way I treat them and I therefore shouldn't expect others to teach their children about respecting other people the way that I teach my kids to.

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I am the anon poster who said yes it was you to the blogger and for the record I don't have a noisy household at all! I have one shy daughter who is quiet as a mouse and does not run riot I promise. Perhaps the solution is for parents to take their kids to places they actually want to go to?! Can't imagine I would have got very excited about going to a war museum when I was young. The science museum has loads of fun stuff for kids maybe parents should stick to places aiming for kids having fun which brings me to my next point... It's also partly down to the museums to provide engaging, interesting, interactive content to keep the children interested, that way maybe they wouldn't be bored which is when the trouble starts.

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